Now suppose, just suppose that the two of you didn't agree on something. I mean, really - no two people agree on everything, right? So let's say you two disagree on something... something really big and important... something really big and important to both of you.
Would you immediately pounce on that person and annihilate them? I mean you really, really, really love this person. Would you get in their face and yell and scream the second that you found out they thought differently from you?
I would bet that you, dear calm, intelligent, and caring reader - that you would quietly let your favorite person know that you disagreed with them. You might even ask them a few questions about why they think that they are right (after all, you admire and respect this person to the max!). You might even try to put yourself in their shoes and try to see the subject through their eyes. You might even listen intently to what they have to say and give more than a passing thought to learning why they they believe what they do. The two of you might just have a conversation, or two, or three.
You would have communication not retaliation.
Even if neither of you changed your minds, you would have a greater understanding of why each of you felt the way you did.
Now, suppose... just suppose that you had this same difference of opinion with someone you did not know well. Will there be the same attempts at communication? Or will there be immediate retaliation for the differing opinion?
I'm going to work on that...